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Job loss was another painful reminder of why my sobriety must be the number one thing in my life.

It’s been a few weeks since I had a theoretical bomb dropped on me. I recently got laid off from my full-time job and my financial stability, my career, and overall sense of security were taken from me. It was unexpected, devastating, and made me question everything. Job loss is just that — a loss. I felt grief, anger, frustration, hopelessness, and defeat. I questioned if I did enough, if it was the job I really wanted, if I deserved that job, and if I’ll ever find another job
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as good as this one again. Being laid off had me questioning my life, my worth, my value as an employee, and even my sobriety.

Like so many situations in sobriety, job loss can present a unique danger. As a person in recovery who used drinking as a coping mechanism for the majority of my life, being laid off led to me wishing that I could drink. I wished I had the luxury of numbing my emotions for a moment. I wished I could take myself out of living in the moment for a second. Logical, sober me, knows that alcohol wouldn’t make the situation better, only worse. Sober me knew that alcohol might make me forget for a little while, but it wouldn’t make my pain go away.

How can we make it through these ups and downs of life and still stay sober? Here’s what has worked for me over these last few weeks:

Honor Your Feelings

I’ve had a lot of surprising feelings over these past few weeks while I grieve the loss of my job. Some days it’s been hard to get out of bed, other days I feel okay, and other days I feel like I can barely feed myself or exercise. I started getting impatient with myself, thinking I should be over this already and not so upset. But then I remembered, healing is not linear. Healing takes time and grief demands to be felt. It’s important to honor your feelings about any situation in sobriety, but especially job loss. You’re allowed to be mad and sad and feel lost. As soon as I accepted this, the grieving process began.

Use Your Support System

If you’re anything like me, you might feel awkward or guilty reaching out to people in your support system when you’re feeling down. I had people tell me that everyone gets laid off at least once in their lifetime, and although I know these people were trying to help me, it made me feel like I shouldn’t be upset. I have a few friends who have been through similar situations and who I knew wouldn’t judge me and I reached out to them. It was comforting to hear their words, their advice, and to know that I wasn’t alone in my thoughts and feelings. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help, especially if you’re thinking about drinking.

Get more tips on staying sober during the stressful and scary time of losing your job in the original article How To Survive Job Loss in Sobriety at The Fix.

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How To Turn Your Dreams Into A Reality So You Can Live Your Dreams...

“The secret to change is one step at a time.” —Mark Twain

Everyone has dreams, visions or plans about things they'd love to have or to achieve. But too many of us have given up on them along the way. I remember working with a client who had dreams of becoming a writer. They were smart, articulate, well educated, but due to a bad experience in a College English class, the college professor called their writing style "amateurish and childish", they stopped writing and so they gave up on their
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dream. My thought is that you only live once, so let's figure out ways to truly live your dreams.

The eyes of a child. Sometimes it's good to see things in a child like way. To be called childish though can hurt deeply especially if you're pursuing your dream...

As happened with my client, words can have a big impact on us and I really hate it when words diminish our desire to pursue our dreams, but sometimes we allow them that kind of power over us...  Like everyone else, I too have been impacted by the words of others...I hope to use words in a different way though, too re-inspire you to follow your dreams... Having a dream is the easy portion. We all have dreams. Some are big dreams and some are small dreams. Transforming your dream into a reality can be far more challenging. However, with the help of proven techniques, you can get you from where you are to where you want to be faster than you thought possible.

Like everyone else, I too have been impacted by the words of others...I hope to use words in a different way though, too re-inspire you to follow your dreams... Having a dream is the easy portion. We all have dreams. Some are big dreams and some are small dreams. Transforming your dream into a reality can be far more challenging. However, with the help of proven techniques, you can get you from where you are to where you want to be faster than you thought possible.

Having a dream is the easy portion. We all have dreams. Some are big dreams and some are small dreams. Transforming your dream into a reality can be challenging. However, with the help of proven techniques, you can get you from where you are to where you want to be faster than you thought possible.

Don't buy into the hype that some people promote that you can just imagine your dreams and they will come true - you have to take some kind of action towards achieving them., it's not a completely easy thing to accomplish your dreams, you definitely need to put in some hard work in order to achieve something worthwhile. It used to be, in many cultures, that it was inspiration from dreams that we had while asleep that we then took action on in our waking lives. So keep a look out for guidance from your dreams.

You definitely need to put in some hard work in order to achieve something worthwhile. It used to be, in many cultures, that it was inspiration from dreams that we had while asleep that we then took action on in our waking lives. So keep a look out for guidance from your dreams.

It used to be, in many cultures, that it was inspiration from dreams that we had while asleep that guided action on in our waking lives at times and hence the term "follow your dreams". So keep a look out for guidance from your dreams.

Before you write this off as some crazy notion, let me assure you that sleep and dreams are highly important. In fact, it has recently been shown that sleep is vital to our success and well being because it is literally when new learning is consolidated and neurons grow. Scientists have shown this through the use of what's called "light microscopy"

For more information on dreams check out Wikipedia and WebMd.

See the image below? This isn't the kind of dream you turn into reality...Pick something better!

Now back to the Top 7 Steps To Turn Your Dreams Into A Reality. Here's a process to follow to turn your dreams into reality.

1. Turn your dream into a goal and have a plan associated with it. When you have a goal, you have a true target. For a greater chance of success, your plan should have a deadline and it must be measurable. It has been said that dreams are objectives without a deadline. Devote yourself to steadily working towards setting a deadline and things will start to happen.Having measurable goals is important because without them you really have no way to tell if you moving forward... The human brain plays funny tricks on us and without a good way to track our progress we often succumb to false impressions our brains create.

The human brain plays funny tricks on us and without a good way to track our progress we often succumb to false impressions our brains create.

Let me give you an example of a measurable goal that has a deadline associated with it: "By November 15, I will lose 20lbs." An important principle with setting goals is to make them compelling so that they stir up your sense of desire to accomplish them. At the same time, you also want to be realistic about what is possible. If you see your goal as impossible to achieve it becomes very hard to generate the energy and enthusiasm needed to move forward to take action.

2. Break your goals into small steps, so that they are easier to achieve and don't seem as overwhelming. Want to know the fancy term that social scientist came up with for this technique? "Partializing the problem"

When you plan break goals into small steps...You don't always need a hammer.


3. Now prioritize your goals into what you need to accomplish each day. Inside our minds, we all have a a constant stream of dialogue going on. Most of the time we are unaware of it, but thousands of times a day your brain gives you messages... So now it's time to put this mechanism to good use and to let your brain know that your goal is more important than most of the random "inner chatter" that happens all day long. You know, more important than things like... "I like bacon" or "That person is annoying".

Remind yourself througout the day of your goal and your priority as well as many reasons you have behind wanting to accomplish it...

4. With that being said the next thing to do is to make a list of things that you associate as being negative that are related to your goal or dream. Most likely you already have negative things associated with your dream or goal. You may not have even realized it before, but these associations have been holding you back from achieving your dreams. So make a list of all the negative items that come to mind when you think about achieving your dream or goal. Then look at the are list and start to identify ways to deal with these challenges. Every time a new negative association pops into your mind, jot it down and create a method to deal with if needed. Keep doing this exercise over time as things will change and new challenges and negative associations will arise.

5. Now make a list of all the things that you view as positive about reaching your goal or dream. As you consider the positive imagine how would feel achieving your dream. Build up that feeling. Imagine people cheering and clapping - whatever helps you to intensify the feeling. Think about how accomplishing your goal would change your life... What would be different about your view of the world or your self-image? Now consider your next objective. What would it be? Make this objective as desirable and attractive as possible. Create a vision of your life after you've accomplished your goal. What does it look like, feel like etc... As you do this exercise, consider how repeating this process will keep your motivation levels high.

6. Now take a look at what additional steps you need to take in order to make you dream a reality. Do you need a license or permit? Are you starting a business? Do you need special resources? Do you need additional knowledge" How about skills that you might need to acquire? Create a list of the resources, knowledge, and skills you may need to acquire and begin your planning process to work through getting them.

Keep in mind the concept of outsourcing. Are there other people who can help you. Maybe you don't need all the knowledge and skill you've listed. List the people you know who can be helpful to you and consider their expertise or resources that they might lend... A wise friend once said to me, "No man is an island" and that is very true when accomplishing your dream. Sometimes you need guidance and mentoring along the way. You may be afraid to ask for help, but keep in mind that most people actually like to help. Continue to break down any obstacles you may need to overcome into smaller manageable steps that you can overcome.

7.  Take action every day & Track your progress. On a regular schedule review and evaluate where you are with your goal and re-evaluate what you need to do in order to move forward. Keep in mind that circumstances change and you may need to modify your plan.

Repeat every step as needed and best of luck to you on your journey to accomplish your dreams. When you achieve your dream don't forget to celebrate!

Celebrate Your Victories No Matter How Small...

People often dream about many things and I had a turning point for myself in 2009 in which I developed a dream to help people develop more mental, emotional and financial freedom...

If you want to discover more about my dream and some of what I uncovered Click Here

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There are few things more destructive in a relationship than assembling flatpack furniture. But, IKEA might have created a genius solution that could bring peace to households the world over.

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"The first wedge dowel was born ten years ago, when our prototype engineers made a trestle with less fittings and better stability than the existing ones. But nothing happened until we found somebody who believed in the idea," Christer Collin, former project leader of Project Enjoyable Assembling Experience at IKEA, said in the blogpost.

The innovation process behind the wedge dowel began when engineers wanted to make the assembly process easier and more fun. They also wanted to make the flatpack furniture more aesthetically pleasing by removing visible fittings.

IKEA representative Jesper Brodin told the Evening Standard that furniture made by the retailer often contains a lot of fittings, which can present some challenges in people's time and interest. "I tried it myself and actually put together a table which used to take me 24 minutes to assemble but instead took me three minutes to click together."

IKEA will launch the new system across all of its furniture lines, starting with the tricky-to-assemble Lisabo table.

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Check Out This Great Article From Upworthy.Com - If you're like me, you're drowning in student loan debt.

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One of the worst things about debt is that it can make us feel like we're all alone.

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Well, all alone with a mound of envelopes from Sallie Mae.
But we're not alone. Student debt is a problem for so many of us. A $1.2 trillion problem to be exact.

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uggling to make their payments.
Now, thanks to an awesome new tool from ProPublica, you can see how your debt stacks up.

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In September, the U.S. government released a huge amount of data on federal debt at American colleges and universities. To make it a little easier to navigate, ProPublica made an interactive database that you can search through to satisfy your morbid curiosity:

See how far into debt other folks are who went to the same school as you! Check out what the average debt for students is at other colleges! (Hey, it might make that rejection letter from your dream school not seem that bad after all.)

OK, but beyond morbid curiosity, this tool can be incredibly helpful:
If you're a prospective student looking at colleges, you can now research which schools are more likely to leave you in debt.

The tool also comes with an easy-to-follow guide to help you live your dreams of being a student-debt Sherlock. It helps you read between the lines to figure out how many low-income students attend schools and how much debt they leave with. You can also check if graduates are making more money than the average high school graduate in the area.

Already, the data has been used to find that some schools with huge endowments and that Catholic universities are leaving their poorest students with the most debt.

The data from the government doesn't paint the whole picture because private debt is a huge problem, too. But this tool is making it possible to see some important trends that weren't easily recognizable before. And that's awesome.

Because knowledge is power. Whether it's earning that degree or, you know, figuring out how much money you'd spend getting that degree.

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When you publish an awesome blog post, you know youâre going to get tons of views.
But usually, that traffic dies down quickly.
All that hard work and effort only gives you a few weeks of traffic.
That means you need to start writing more blog posts to keep the organic traffic coming to your site.
But therein lies the major problem:
Marketers are strapped for time as it is.
Writing weekly blog posts can be a chore and drain the time from your day before you know it.
So what do you do when 5 new content marketing posts are due by the end of the week?
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n your traffic keeps dying out after a few weeks?
Well, the solution is simple:
You need to create more content.
But remember: You donât have time to write tons of blog posts when youâve got analytics to measure, KPIs to identify, sales to make, and a huge list filled with tasks.
Thankfully, there are a few incredible ways to recycle existing content.
You can take your best performing content and give it a virtual jumpstart to bring it back to life.
Repurposing content is one of the better ways of saving time while still delivering amazing content that brings in new traffic.
And you already know that the content will bring in new traffic because it performed well in the past.
Here are 4 content-recycling tips to breathe new life into your best posts.

1. Turn it into an infographic
One of the great advantages of repurposing old posts is that you can choose from your best ones.
If you pick ones that performed well in the past, you can bet that theyâll perform well again.
You just need to bring your popular posts back in a fresh way. Almost anything you do to add value will drive more traffic to them.
One of the best ways to do just this is to add an infographic to the post.
Infographics are one of the top-performing types of visual content that you can produce.
According to a 2016 study from Venngage, marketers said that infographics performed the best out of any visual content they made:

Infographics were the best at driving high engagement rates.
That means that if you add one to a previous blog, you can expect to drive huge traffic back to it.
On top of that, the study also found that visual content is growing massively every year:

In addition, people like and share infographics 3x more than any other content type.

Simply put, infographics are an effective and popular way to repurpose old content and continue to drive traffic back to it.
To get started with creating infographics, you have a few different options.
If you prefer to outsource tasks, there are a few sites that you can use to get the job done and save money at the same time.
Start by scouring a site like Fiverr. Simply search on the website for an infographic designer:

Make sure you sort the results by top-rated services and average customer reviews to find reputable designers.
Look for services that have high-star ratings and a large number of reviews:

Fiverr is a great place to find designers that have fast turnaround times for really low prices.
That means you can pay a mere $5 to get a pretty high-quality infographic within 24 hours.
This approach is one of the fastest ways to repurpose your content.
You can also try a site like Upwork. Just go to their site and search for infographic designers.
You can get cheap freelancers to work on your design:

But perhaps you prefer to create infographics on your own. If thatâs you, then you have quite a few options available.
You can create high-quality infographics in just a few minutes on Canva, Venngage, Piktochart, Visme, and Easel.ly.
There are tons of infographic-making tools to choose from, and each of them will help you get the job done.
Canva is probably the easiest and fastest free tool to use, but it also lacks some icons and features that the other platforms have.
If you want an easy yet diverse tool, try using Visme.
Head to their homepage and create a free account to start building an infographic.

Click âGet Started Nowâ to create your free account.
Once you log in with your new account, you can choose from hundreds of templates:

You can also search by keyword to refine the results.
Once you find a template, simply click on it to see a preview and then click, âSelect themeâ:

Visme is a great tool due to the simplicity of its editing features and its diverse customization options.
To edit something, you simply click on the page element.
You can also add tons of different elements from the left-hand sidebar:

You can choose between tons of matching icon sets, giving your infographic a seamless look:

You can even add basic animation to your infographics to make them stand out:

Give Visme a shot today to improve your best content.
Infographics drive social shares like none other. Implementing them can be the boost that your old content needs to drive traffic again.
2. Turn it into a webinar
Webinars are a great way to garner traffic and sales for your business.
In fact, the average webinar generates nearly 150 attendees.
And the average webinar attendee will view the webinar for 50 minutes!
Thatâs an unprecedented amount of engagement. Itâs better than almost any other marketing format.
The huge advantage of webinars is that they arenât difficult to set up.
You can also record your webinar and instantly double up on your content without doing the extra work. Afterward, you can write a blog post about your webinar, too.
To decide what content you want to turn into a webinar, head to your Google Analytics dashboard under the âAll Pagesâ report.

Here, you can see what content has performed the best over a certain time period:

If you click on these posts, you can also view a graph of engagement and interaction over time.
This graph will help you determine which content was once popular but isnât driving traffic anymore:

Once youâve identified great, old content, you can easily turn it into a webinar.
Start by rereading the post and taking notes of the structure to identify a basic outline for your webinar.
For example, you can write the subheads back into an outline format like this:
Why TOPIC X is important to the user Why TOPIC X should be fixed, used, etc. Tip 1 Tip 2 Tip 3 Q&A You can quickly develop a simple structure for your webinar based on that old piece of content.
Write down any subheads or tips and then leave room for a question and answer session at the end.
GoToWebinar is one of (if not the most) popular webinar-hosting platforms on the Internet right now.

Although itâs not free, you can use a free trial account to start hosting your webinar today.
Over 2.7 million webinars are hosted every single year on the platform.
On top of that, 63% of B2B marketers said that webinars are one of their most effective tactics.

And if you still arenât convinced, GoToWebinar customers generate over 25% more qualified leads!
The features of GoToWebinar are very diverse, too.
You can create custom email automation campaigns, use custom branding, utilize polls to engage the audience, record and share your webinar as a video, and stream with mobile capabilities.
Iâve hosted tons of webinars by recycling old content that has performed well for me.
Itâs a great way to build engaged audiences and establish yourself as a thought leader and industry expert.
If you use them well, webinars can show people that your content is the best available.
They drive unprecedented levels of engagement and higher conversion rates than advertising or search engine optimization.
In fact, webinar landing pages have an average conversion rate of 30%, according to Leadpages.
Thatâs much better than typical organic search and PPC conversion rates.
Webinars should be one of your go-to strategies when it comes to recycling content and bringing it back from the dead.
3. Create a LinkedIn SlideShare
LinkedInâs SlideShare is one of the best B2B marketing tools on the planet.

Currently, 80 million B2B professionals are using SlideShare to share and view content online.
In fact, itâs one of the top 100 most-visited websites on the Internet today.
The site has more than 18 million uploads and 40 different content categories to choose from.
Itâs no secret that utilizing SlideShare can help you attract B2B leads.
And itâs easy to use.
You can take your best content and turn it into a slideshow that captures tons of leads.
To get started, create a slideshow to upload to the platform.
For example, you can use Google Slides, PowerPoint, Canva, or almost any other tool you prefer.
The key here is to be creative while still getting your message across.
I recommend using something more exciting, like Canva, so that you can display your content in a way that engages audiences.
Hereâs an example of what it could look like:

You can choose from 2 presentation formats to start creating a great SlideShare post in just a few minutes.
You can also choose from creative templates that are more interesting and appealing than a typical slideshow template:

As soon as you select a template, you can edit each slide and customize it to your needs:

Itâs a great, easy way to make free slideshows out of your old content.
Simply take the best parts of your most popular posts and throw that content into a slideshow.
If you would rather use a different platform, you can try Google Slides. Here are a few of the templates they offer:

They have plenty of updated templates, and the platform allows you to collaborate with other people.
That means you can easily have multiple employees working on the slideshow at the same time to streamline the process.
Next, head back to SlideShare and upload your post:

SlideShare is a great tool to reach large numbers of B2B professionals.
And LinkedIn is the best social media platform when it comes to generating B2B leads.
Utilize SlideShare as a way to drive new leads and bring life back to your old content.
4. Turn it into an ebook
Ebooks are still one of the most popular ways that we consume content online.
Ebook sales have been steady since 2010:

In fact, according to Statista, ebook sales are surpassing printed book sales:

Since ebook reading is on the rise, itâs no wonder that they are one of the best lead magnets on the web.
People love detailed, in-depth content about particular topics.
Long-form content always wins when it comes to providing value and converting leads.
A great way to make long-form ebooks is to take multiple posts and turn them into one huge ebook.
For example, if you have a popular post on search engine optimization that once drove huge amounts of traffic, you can use that as your base.
Then you can take any related content, like blog posts on local SEO, link-building tactics, and effective content marketing, and add them to the mix.
These additions will boost the length of the content and provide more value.
Turn your old posts into a massive guide that people can use for years to come.
Be sure to include step-by-step tutorials that people can follow along with and implement on their own.
Adding tutorials will allow your audience to use the ebook beyond a one-time reading. Theyâll be able to refer back to it whenever they need to optimize their content.
If you want to create an ebook today, you have a few different options.
You can always outsource the production to a designer on Fiverr:

If you prefer to create one on your own, you can use a variety of tools.
If you use an Apple computer, you can download iBooks for free and create beautiful ebooks:

Iâve personally used it many times before.
And the best part: Itâs completely free.
You can choose from a bunch of unique, high-quality templates:

The software is also simple to use. Anyone can utilize the drag-and-drop or click-to-edit system that iBooks runs on.
Itâs as easy as using any other basic tool like Canva, but it has diverse, powerful features:

You can even add widgets and features like videos, photos, popups, sliders, graphs, and more:

If you want to incorporate statistics, you can also add charts with custom data.
If you donât have an Apple computer, you can try out a free tool like Canva to create an ebook quickly:

Simply make a new ebook design and start filling it in with content. They have tons of different themes and pre-made templates to choose from:

Producing ebooks is one of the best ways to bring life to your old content.
You can easily repurpose the content because youâve already written it.
You simply format it, design it, and put the pieces together.
Use it to drive leads as a lead magnet or charge people to buy it.
You can increase your sales and leads quickly by recycling old content in ebooks.
Publishing a great blog post that drives traffic (and actually helps people) gives you one of the best feelings.
It shows that your effort and hard work really paid off.
However, usually, that traffic will die down in just a few weeks or months.
That means you can never create enough content.
Thereâs simply not enough time in the day.
Marketers are already busy with hundreds of other tasks.
You need to find a better way to create more content in less time. So you should resurrect those old posts that drove tons of traffic.
You canât risk letting all of that hard work just die out.
You can recycle old content and breathe new life into it by using repurposing tactics.
You can bring back more traffic to those posts by tweaking just a few basic things!
Start by turning your best old content into an infographic. You donât need to do more research to perfect it.
Simply outline your content into infographic form to drive tons of shares.
Next, turn your content into a webinar. They are one of the most popular marketing tactics online today.
Create a LinkedIn SlideShare to reach high-quality B2B leads with your old content.
After that, consider turning it into an ebook. Ebooks are on the rise and are even surpassing printed books.
If your content is not bringing in traffic anymore, you need to bring it back and repurpose it.
It is how you can save yourself time and energy, while still ensuring that youâre attracting leads and contributing to the success of your business.
What are your some ways you have recycled content?
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